Accept the Loss of Expect

“I feel like I am grieving the loss of something, but I do not know what that is.”

Me, explaining why I haven’t been to Bible Study lately


Finding out my son is faced with a muscle disease has been the most faith shaking and faith building experiences in my life. The phone call from the doctor saying he has a muscle disease and now we just have to put a name on it sent me into grief. Grief of a loss I did not understand. “What have I lost,” I would ask myself. He’s here, and we aren’t looking at Muscular Dystrophy, a fatal muscle disease. So, why am I grieving? I asked for clarity and comfort. I asked for strength. I just kept asking, and one day I received. 

I love podcasts, and one of my favorites is For The Love with Jen Hatmaker Podcast. I was listening to the Chrissy Kelly: How To Survive When Your Dreams Dissolve episode. It was an awakening of the soul! That is what I have been grieving this whole time! I lost expectancy. I could no longer know what was going to happen, as a mom. Plans of sports, school, careers, graduation, marriage, all of the hopes I always took for granted, they are all up in the air. As a mom, especially if you have twins or more, you do learn to expect the unexpected. Some ideas and plans you learn to let go of; but not normalcy. You don’t expect to let go of simple ideals. Yet, when you are facing the unknown, you have to die to the design of normal mom plans. It is earth shattering, yet, it has been extremely freeing!


Once I heard this episode and learned the name of the loss I was able to move forward. I also had to do a bit of work to let go of the concept that I had control in any of this. That is where faith shaking turned into faith building. I have given this to God, for real this time. So now, I do not expect anything other than the comfort in riding the waves of the unknown, the comfort of deeper faith. 

So go forth and learn to love the unexpected. It might just be more beautiful than you ever dreamed. 






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